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my mom is crying bc she can’t see bc of diabetes, and the Dr’s im taking her to won’t do anything bc they say she’s too weak, or something like that, I don’t know what to do, I am the only person in my family who is “able bodied” enough to take her back and forth bc she is a full time wheelchair user and my sister is a minor and everyone else is disabled with limited movement.. I’m absolutely losing my mind, I’m so so broke, and I have so much work, and I’m on the verge of a mental breakdown, is there anyone at all who can offer me advice on what to do or any kind words, or encouragement, I feel so sick and hopeless
hello,
I went to a different Dr on the day I posted this and this time we have found someone who was more sympathetic to our situation. They diagnosed my mom with Glaucoma and provided her with medicine for the meantime.
She’s due to return on the first of April, which is my birth month 🥹
I’ve had a couple of folks asking if I could open my tipping jar here, and any sort of help is a relief. I Spent around 100 usd in total getting my mom back and forth the hospital and her initial new diagnoses, and for the meds.. My sister is recovering from acute laryngitis, and I’m just, well, recovering from a mental breakdown from all this. I’m in no position to refuse help, and anything at all, even just a kind word, a share, a dollar, or words of encouragement is deeply appreciated. I currently work three jobs, and I sell prints and do commissions, so if you’d like to support me and my art, I’ll be making a separate post for my art samples and commission rates. Hopefully with this new Dr they won’t require us to go through another round of lab tests and we can finally have a solution / closure with what’s going on with my mom’s health..
in the meantime, if anyone wants to send me tips and any breathing room as I steel myself for my mom’s next Dr’s appt, it is so so appreciated. Thank you so much. everything goes towards my mom’s insulin, my sister’s educational needs and cat food. Thank you so much for all the help people are willing to give, and I hope for more stability soon
Before we can attempt closeness, we need to have security. Through his research, Dr. Levine has identified the five foundational elements of secure relationships, which he refers to as CARRP.
Consistency (Do these friends drift in and out of my life on a whim?)
Availability (How available are they to spend time together?)
Reliability (Can I count on them if I need something?)
Responsiveness (Do they reply to my emails and texts? Do I hear from them on a consistent basis?)
Predictability (Can I count on them to act in a certain way?)
Once these five elements are in place, it can pave the way to a deeper connection. “From an attachment perspective, once we feel safe, we can start being more adventurous and playful, which helps us at work, raising our kids, in every aspect of our lives,” Dr. Levine said.
That doesn’t mean that you have to respond to texts within the hour, but it does mean that you need to create a baseline of responsiveness and availability so your friends feel secure in your friendship. Likewise, if you have friends who are flaky, unresponsive or unreliable, it will serve you to try to see if they can become more CARRP and if not, look to other people for close friendship.
“We often tell ourselves that we shouldn’t care if somebody cancels plans or we can’t count on them, that we should be more laid back and stop being so needy, but that’s the same as fighting against biology,” Dr. Levine said.
After an accident that has left me with a hairline fracture in my vertebrae, I am now in desperate need of additional funds in order to get an increasingly critical surgery to prevent paralysis or death. This is in addition to the already established itinerary of surgeries needed to remove the multiple growths in my spine that are expanding and growing everyday. I am terrified of what feels inevitable, and I am in so much pain. I truly need help. I am sorry to continue bombarding your dashboards with my pleas for help, but I wouldn’t be doing it if this were not a life or death situation. Please share this, and if you are able, I sincerely need donations. All of my expenses are piling up on me all at once, and I can’t number the amount of panic attacks this catastrophe has caused me to have. I am so terrified, and I honestly feel so much shame in having to ask for help to keep me alive, but if there is anyone that can spare anything out of the kindness of their hearts, I cannot tell you how much it would mean to me. You would quite literally be saving my life.
I only have so long before irreparable damage is done to my spine, so I humbly plead with you all to share this and donate, if possible. I love you all, and wish the best for you. I sincerely hope that this is one of the last posts of this kind that I will ever have to make.
Please read this as my life depends on it’s success.
Hello to everyone reading this.
I’m currently struggling to make ends meet due to some issues. I had to leave my home in 2019 due to domestic problems and since then, I’ve been struggling to stand up on my feet. Things did start to get better at the beginning of last year when I got my first job but it was short lived as I was let go due to the impact of Covid. Things have gotten worse since then. I was in an accident earlier this year which has ensured that I can’t even apply for any jobs, at least for the next 4 months. On top of that, to survive, I had to borrow money from loan sharks which I now have to return. I’m very close to being homeless as well and currently have barely any money to get by.
As such, I will be eternally grateful if you all could help me with donating anything you can towards my cause, so that I can get back on my feet. I need about $4900 to help me keep a roof over my head, pay off the loan sharks and to survive for the next 4 months - until I can start applying for jobs.
P#yP@l: rabiafathima301@gmail.com
Update (1): It’s been nearly a week and I’m devastated that I’m yet to receive a donation. Not that I feel entitled to receive it, just that my calculations were already based on the worst-case scenario. So, yeah, feeling a little down-er than usual.
Not sure if this helps or not, but I’ve created a fundrasing page as that was pretty much the last thing I could do. I plead again to anyone reading this - please consider donating anything you can spare towards my cause.
FYI, if you are reading the fundraising page and wish to donate, please do it via P#yP@l itself as the ’bank transfer’ method will delay me getting the amount by a month and for some reason, I was not able to set up P#yP@l on the page. Have added it in the description though.
Update (2): Looks like the last post has lost traction, something I really can’t afford to happen. I’ve already got about $338 from kind donors but unfortunately, that’s barely 7% of my goal. I’m in desperate need of any help you can provide as I’ve just been given a deadline by my landlord, to come up with at least $950 by the end of the month (arrears due). If not, I’m getting evicted with nowhere to go. Please understand that I am not trying to guilt anyone into donating. I’m just extremely exhausted and under a lot of anxiety and being given deadlines is not helping.
As such, I request everyone reading this to help me reach my goal by reblogging or boosting my post as much as possible. A donation is appreciated even more but only if you’re able to spare any amount without it affecting you and your daily life.
I am thankful to all of the people who have helped by reblogging my posts. I’m especially grateful to those who have donated.
Update (3): So, my account got terminated and with it, all the traction I was getting from my previous posts. No idea what happened or what I did wrong. Support team weren’t particularly helpful with their vague explanation - “for spam or using your blog with the primary purpose of affiliate marketing”. If you have an idea of why this happened, let me know.
I’ve, of course, asked for a second chance but from what I’ve read online, that seems unlikely or likely with a long delay (something I can’t afford).
As such, I’d appreciate it if you all could do the same as you’ve been doing all this while since my life is now at the hands of kind people like yourselves.
Goal: 464.80/4900
Update (4): Just wanted to reach out again as this site has shaken my confidence (account terminated without warning even though it was restored). It’s just made me even more anxious than usual and if such a thing were to happen again and if I wasn’t able to get it restored, then I don’t know what I’ll do. I’m definitely not in a position where I can afford for that to happen as the consequences of me not reaching the goal are something that cannot be put into words.
As such, I request everyone reading this to help me by either reblogging or boosting or donating (only if it doesn’t hurt your finances) as much as possible. I am sorry about the repeated requests as I never intended to intrude or be an annoying part of your day to day life. It’s just that I’m not sure what else to do. In fact, if it wasn’t for the kindness you guys have shown, I highly doubt I’d even be here to post this. You have given hope and I’m thankful to everyone for that. May God bless you and your family.
Goal: 751.80/4900
Update (5): Seems like this post has lost traction, again 😔. I hate to request this of you again but I’m sad to say that I’m left with no other option. So, here I go again.
To anyone reading this, if it’s not a bother, could you please reblog this post? If you have anything to spare, please consider donating. In the situation I’m in, even a dollar makes a huge difference (I wish I was joking). For my immediate goal, I need $200 more to cover rent for this month.
everyone around me be like: haha i remember my childhood SO WELL! here’s some well detailed funny memories that i have :)
i be like: uh i remember like… the smell of my kindergarten classroom and like…. tv commercials from the early 2000s and the impending sense of doom and overwhelming crushing loneliness.
okay who else feels wildly uncomfortable with idea of being comforted, because you already sorta accepted that you will not be comforted ever so you built a wall around yourself to keep all your feelings in and away from people, and in order for you to even receive comfort you’d have to become vulnerable first and show your actual pain but if you did that you would basically be on the mercy of another person and they could do anything to you, including brainwashing you, or taking advantage of your vulnerability to hurt you worse, and since that happened last time you were vulnerable you would pretty much rather die than risk it, but also if you did get comforted and it went well it would open up the awareness that you needed this comfort all your life and never got it and that would be PAINFUL, and also the comfort you get might be just one-time thing so then you’d have to live while being aware that it’s all you’ll ever get but now you crave it so bad and thats wow even more painful than things are now so you’d rather not even engage in this and keep to where’t safe, inside your personal walls built to keep you alive
Abusive parents turn any child trait into a proof that you are a rotten demon and need to be abused. Even when you just pick up on their behaviour, which children do, they turn on you because in their heads, only they are allowed to be spoiled and selfish, you don’t get to want attention or comfort, you don’t get to act like a kid, only they can.
If you did a few messed up things only because your parents behaviour told you it was normal and what people did, they will turn it to convince you that you were a nightmare child, impossible to care for, evil to your core. This can then be applied to any developmental stage of growth. For instance, children under 5 don’t yet have developed empathy or understanding of human life. You do something non-consequencial but also non-empathic as a 4yr old? Congrats now you’re a demon and deserved to be beaten into submission for being 4. You don’t show completely emotional understanding and maturity t the age of 11? Well you better learn how to mimic it because you are now worthless since you are 11.
Whatever you did as a kid was a result of the environment you lived in, more than your free will or intention. You couldn’t have learned how to be a healthy, empathetic, mature, well informed and responsible individual while being a 12 year old living with a couple of abusers who cared only about themselves. Your sins were never even close to theirs but they made a point to hold only you accountable, they could get away with anything. What you were able to learn is that everything is your fault, rules can be changed at any moment, and any kind of behaviour can be bad if you’re the one doing it. You learned to assume something is always wrong with you and to tolerate complete selfishness, cruelty, neglect, and self obsessed behaviour in others. You learned that there’s a big gap in value between you and other people and you always come last and are open to be criticized and berated for anything, while having to right to point out anyone else’s behaviour.
No child should be raised thinking this. Any normal person would put their child’s value above their own, not ram it into the ground while the child is watching. You weren’t a bad kid. Your behaviour did not warrant you being treated like a criminal or a demon. You were never worth any less than any other person on earth. They twisted your childhood into a story that would excuse their abuse. But abuse is inexcusable and cannot be justified. They fed you lies and taught you garbage. You didn’t deserve to be abused.
hey everyome i know i dont really post much on here anymore but i just recently ended things with an emotionally abusive ex & i could really use some financial assistance as i’ll be recovering from my first gender confirmation surgery next saturday and im really stressing out about how im gonna afford rent without him while being off work for sn entire month. if anyone has it in there heart (and bank account) to send a couple bucks my way i would greatly appreciate it but i understand its tough times for all of us.
